What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

With his bestsellers, The Wonder of Boys and The Wonder of Girls, therapist and social philosopher Michael Gurian presented a groundbreaking new approach to parenting. Now, in his new book, WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING?: How a Man's Mind Really Works, Gurian presents a new vision of the male psyche. Based on two decades of neurobiological research, his latest book explores who men are by nature and answers the questions women have long been asking about husbands, fathers, boyfriends, and co-workers. The answers in WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? come not from popular opinion or social trends, but from science. The new field of brain science helps us understand men in provocative and helpful ways, ways that change relationships and society for the better.

THE BRAIN SCIENCE

In relationships between women and men, brain science is a goldmine of human understanding. The male and female brain are formed in utero. There are distinct genetic components of "male" and "female" that predate learned behavior as well. So, while women and men are certainly formed by their upbringing, what makes them distinctly "women" or "men" is actually locked in the brain. It is affected by our childhood nurturing, but it is not changed. The new brain sciences allow us to tap into who we really are, in ways that empower and help. They are a path toward true equality between women and men, and they hold the key to lasting relationships.

In WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? Michael Gurian focuses on what is happening inside the minds of men--their motivations, feelings, relationships, needs and point-of-view, mining brain science for its answers to such questions as:

How is the male brain different than the female brain?
How do men's hormones make their brains work differently than women's (and not just in areas of sexuality!)
Why do men tend to remember different details and ideas than women do?
Do men feel as much emotion as women do in their love-relationships? If not, why not?
Why don't men notice how much housework needs to be done?
Why do fathers tend to bond differently with children than mothers?
What strengths do male biology and the male mode of feeling bring to marriage?
Why do women tend to find someone to talk to when they're stressed, while men tend to deal with stress without as many words and close relationships?
What are the biological reasons for men's obsession with their work?
How does a woman get a man to commit his whole self to her?
Why do men feel like they have to keep such a grip on the TV remote control?

WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? points out not only the ways in which men are biologically and neurally set to act, but also suggests that there are untapped advantages to the male way of being, and to women's mastery of that way In WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING?, Michael Gurian has made a profound statement about the role of men in modern culture, and suggests a way for men and women to thrive together in what he calls "intimate separateness." The brain, he says, doesn't just seek more intimacy; it also seeks less intimacy at different times. This book offers a new harmony through intimate separateness that can help men and women create stronger, happier relationships.

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Gurian's book {WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING?} explores the fascinating science of the difference in male and female brains and how differences dictate behavior. His hope is that, by illuminating the construction of each gender's amygdala, cingulate gyrus, hippocampus, et al., not to mention the action of our hormones, we can better negotiate the battle of the sexes.

— Lily Burana, The Washington Post

There is now scientific proof (about men) in a new book titled WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING?, which I cannot recommend highly enough.

— Dave Barry, Columnist

WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? is filled with illuminating specific examples.

— Seattle Post Intelligencer

WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? explains how the brain, conjunction with psychological and sociological factors, drives a man's behavior. Gurian's research is both fascinating and eye opening.

— Cleveland Plain Dealer

While plenty of books offer to help us understand the opposite sex from a psychological perspective, this one tackles the topic from a neurological one. Family therapist Gurian (The Wonder of Boys) takes readers on a voyage through the male brain, offering "nature-based" explanations-that is, well-established biological tenets-for how men think and act differently from women (e.g., why they love to tinker with gadgets and why they remember fewer details about an event). In the process, readers discover almost as much about women and how their brains function...(WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING?) is recommended for all public libraries.

— The Library Journal

"Like a guide through a secret forest, WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? leads the nonscientist through the complex world of brain science and relates it to some of the most frustrating sources of conflict between men and women in relationships."

— Reuters News Service

"In WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING?...Michael Gurian has completed some incredible and useful research. Gurian has answered questions of vital importance."

— Chicago Tribune

Best known for several earlier books, including "The Wonder of Boys" and "The Wonder of Girls" — in which he explored ho biological differences between the male and female brains influence childhood behavior — Michael Gurian has turned his attention to grown-ups, saying that understanding the inner workings of the male mind can help couples live in harmony.

— The Los Angeles Times

Finally! Figure out your husband! Men are such a puzzle. Are they serious when they say, "Don't worry so much, the kids are fine?" Actually, yes, says Michael Gurian, a noted author and therapist, in his new book, WHAT COULD HE BE THINKING? (St. Martins Press). Using research on male and female brains, he explains some perplexing behavior, like why men can remember last year's baseball stats but not yesterday's conversation, and more.

— Parenting Magazine, September 2003

"Just when I thought a man's way of thinking could never be fully understood, Michael Gurian comes to the rescue and offers exciting, new insights into the minds of the men we love. Whether you are contemplating marriage, are already married, or just interested in figuring out men, What Could He Be Thinking? is the book for you."

— Ann F. Caron, Ed.D., author of Strong Mothers, Strong Sons

"What Could He Be Thinking? is an insightful, often funny, and easy to read book. It offers many insights into the male mind, which can be very helpful to women and men alike."

— Daniel Amen, M.D., author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

"What Could He Be Thinking? is a well-written, down-to-earth guide to men in an era of concern for women, and a guide to biology in an era focused on psychology. Gurian gives us science's bottom line about how understanding the male brain can create better marriages and parenting. If you have a father, son or husband you want to love more fully, start with What Could He Be Thinking?"

— Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author of Why Men Are The Way They Are and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

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